Sex Ed Questions!


It became quickly apparent that fifth grade girls and boys, gathered in the same room for human sexuality lessons, were not going to feel free to ask questions. So, I  decided I would leave a box in their room after each session, and at the beginning of the next class I would read out loud and answer any questions they had placed there.

My first experience with this method produced five written questions. My confidence grew as I found them to be fairly simple to answer directly—things like, “How old are you when you can’t have babies any longer?” Easy to handle. However, I paused and swallowed as I unfolded the final slip of paper and read, “What is a one night stand?”

I do remember I remained calm, serious, and “nurse-like” as I addressed the question. I cannot, however, tell you a thing I said! I also remember the two fifth grade teachers sitting in the back of the room, who looked up from grading papers to smile at me as they watched and listened. I knew they were thinking, “OK, Nurse Flemr, let’s see you handle this one!”

Published by Susan Flemr

Retired former nurse and former Lutheran pastor. Happily living with her husband of 53 years in Des Moines Iowa. Two married sons and their beautiful families in Nichols, IA and Colorado Springs, CO.

2 thoughts on “Sex Ed Questions!

  1. I am sure you came through this with dignity! Don’t you wonder what kids said when they got the question, “What did you learn in school today?” from their parents that night?

    Did you ever hear anything from parents about this line of teaching? I bet you explained to them before you started it what you were going to do though and by and large our parents were pretty receptive to these kinds of things.



    1. Hi Judy, I sent a note to parents to let them know the classes were happening and at the 7th grade level I sent home a copy of my lesson plans. Parents were supportive. I did have one parent who was very involved in the anti-abortion work and made certain that I was NOT presenting information about that “as just a means of birth control.” I was impressed with their concern. I was also grateful for the teachers’ support in bringing this info to the kids in a healthy way. Wonderful school!


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